megpie71:

alarajrogers:

rozario-sanguinem:

owlet:

the word “queer” being used by someone who uses that word to describe their own experience of love and their cherished community should not ever sound the same to you as it does coming out of the mouth of a homophobe. acting like these two types of people are the same is unbelievably cruel

^^^

Adding on once again: there is no word for our experiences that has not been used as a slur and isn’t *still* used as a slur.

My mother never said fag but she sure could say “gay” in a way that made it clear that was what she meant 🙃

“Homosexual” in the mouth of a Southern Republican US Senator is more vile than “faggot” in the mouth of a 50-year-old gay man from Seattle, where they made an attempt at one point to reclaim the word. (Unlike queer, it didn’t really work.)

Hell. “Those people” in the mouth of a homophobic mom to a closeted gay teen is probably fouler than either of those.

Just chiming in here from over on the disability side of things, where we can testify that it doesn’t matter what you call yourself, your terminology will get used as a slur by people who don’t want you to exist because you fuck up their ideas of how the world should be. So, call yourself whatever you want, and don’t yield to the people who don’t care what you’re called, because your greatest crime is existing in the first place.  They’re never going to have a polite word for you anyway.

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Anonymous asked:

Same old sh*t but a different day https://twitter.com/callmebabyagain/status/1687872611357962240?s=46&t=mvTAw9jWfh8OZn8f86CleA

twopoppies:

Hahahahaha! God, same. I love how Jeff and Xander were on Harry’s “date” with Sara Sampaio 🙃🙃🙃

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hopepunk-humanity:

Maggie the poet

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1863-project:

themythicalcodfish:

disast3rtransp0rt:

micro-usb-deactivated20230625:

As someone who took etiquette lessons, politeness is an incredibly effective tool for disarming bigots. You can either force them to reconsider their words/actions by directly and calmly confronting their behavior (by using the rules of society in your favor), or you can dip entirely while they appear to be in the wrong.

Both options are great.

Because the thing is, when bigots pick fights, they are 100% counting on you to get louder than them. Or meaner. They want you to react emotionally and provide fodder for their ‘You’re Too Emotionally Immature To Understand’ cannon.

What they aren’t expecting you to do is say one of the following phrases in a polite, concerned tone:

1. Are you okay?
2. That’s not the kind of language I was raised to use with others.
3. Do you need a moment to think on why that wasn’t acceptable?
4. This is no way to engage in intelligent conversation. Please try that again in a kinder tone if you’d like this to continue. (I really like this one because it lets you turn their public-shame rhetoric around)

For those of you who’d are spiteful and/or dealing with Fundamentalists/Evangelicals/generally shitty Christians:

1. What’s happening in your life to cause you this much anger? I can’t imagine hurting so badly that I need to hurt other people.
2. Who taught you it was acceptable to treat other people this way? Certainly not the Jesus I remember.
3. Whatever happened to 'judge not lest ye be judged’?
4. If I talked like that in front of my parents or grandparents I would be ashamed.
5. I think there’s something you need to pray on before we try and have this conversation.

And my all time favorite:

“It sounds to me like there are some seriously dark and angry forces at work in your heart.”

(Nothing stops a Christian bigot in their tracks faster than implying the Devil is causing their bigotry. But you MUST be calm, polite, and gentle with your tone and wording. It is absolutely fair to twist the rules and play them at their own game, but you gotta play hard.)

TLDR: It’s much faster to use etiquette, politeness, and rhetoric reversal when eviscerating idiots online and in person, because they aren’t expecting you to weaponize their behaviors back in their direction. Don’t get angry, get spitefully polite! :)

I once witnessed a very soft-spoken young Southern man take a hateful older woman’s hands gently in his and say “Sister, I am so sorry that the Devil has carved a home for hatred in your heart. I’ll pray for you.”

It was glorious.

This works with all sorts of inappropriate behavior. I work as the archivist in a public library, so I end up on the reference desk a lot, and sometimes patrons will say or do things that aren’t exactly appropriate. When patrons try to hit on me, I put on a teacher voice and calmly ask, “Is that an appropriate question to ask someone at work?” and it shuts them down immediately.

This sort of thing always does the trick.

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happyheidi:

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daisiesonafield-blog:

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persephoneflouwers:

I’m looking for another beta for another fic (I can’t and won’t overwork my current one lol)! What I need is basically grammar and spelling and some editing since English is not my first language <3 so please if you know someone or would you like to submit I’m only waiting 🥰

matthewkniesys:

I’m super curious, do yall play or used to play any sports???

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spageddy:

spageddy:

where are u in the sibling order

oldest

older middle

true middle child

younger middle

youngest

only child

it’s complicated

ok so this is the oldest sibling website

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crazysodomite:

im kind of obsessed with this graphic.

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louwilliam:

joining in this trend but making it fandom specific

based on vibes, the person you reblogged this from is

louis

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zayn

niall

liam

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